Everyday is…
Written by beeber on May 13, 2007 – 4:46 pm -Before becoming a mother, I had grand ideas of what a “good” mother should be. The foremost on my agenda was to be a better mother than my mother. Clearly, anyone can do better than a woman who claims to enjoy working in the office more than taking care of her children.
I resisted my mother’s proclamation about motherhood for a long time. Once in a while, she would sneak up to me and asked if I still enjoyed being at home with anZel during my five months maternity leave. I would get absolutely annoyed because I didn’t want her to be right. And being better than her was still on top of my list to do.
The reality of motherhood makes me re-evaluation my idea of a good mother. I soon realize good mothers aren’t necessary the ones who are with their children 24×7. And bad mothers aren’t those who enjoy working at the office more than taking care of the children. Love for children doesn’t solely come from hugs and kisses.
My mother’s dedication to her children and grandchildren puts me to shame. Her selflessness towards all people, especially her own children and grandchildren, are unlike any I have seen. When my brother’s family was in crisis, she wheeled bags of groceries for them with all of her clothes soaked with sweat in the hot summer. This afternoon, she skipped her usual afternoon nap and took anZel out for an hour walk, because she felt that my husband needed to get his work done and I deserved a long nap. These are things she does in a daily basis without uttering a word of complain. Her determination to live happily and positively is inspiring. She takes everything in stride, even the lost of her mother at the age of 30. I can’t think of surviving the past year without her help.
I have looked into all the wrong places for my mother’s love. Her love comes from the selfless person she is to people she meets and to all of us; the positive attitude she demonstrate every day, good or bad; and the incredible dedication she has for her family each and every day.
Happy Mother’s day to someone who believes everyday is her birthday and Mother’s day (especially when we are well-behaved). We love you, Mum. Thank you for being who you are and all you do.
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May 15th, 2007 at 6:10 am
Hi, Berenice,
What a touching piece of sharing and glad for you that you have such a GREAT mum. SO happy to talk to u this sunday. I’ve just watched those video and found that Anzel is so cute and energetic. Hope to see him very soon. Don’t forget to introduce auntie celine to him ar!